Flicking across Facebook earlier today, I saw a reel from one of my fav podcasts, A Diary Of A CEO, which in case you’re wondering, has very little to do with business!
Anyhoo… Steven’s latest guest was discussing what it takes to be “likeable.”
What made the popular kids at school, popular?
And apparently the answer is… to be aggressively liking.
Yep, just like the hell out of loads of people and they’ll want to like you back. But more than like, to impress you back!
Check out what Body Language Expert, Vanessa Van Edwards had to say below:
I was instantly repelled by the idea.
This renowned expert was sharing the secret sauce to one’s lack of popularity was, in essence, a potential cocktail of people pleasing, inauthenticity, ego, false facades sprinkled with the “need” to be liked at all.
I couldn’t let it go, so of course I shared the reel to a few others and it was suggested, “it’s just a more direct way of saying be kind.”
But is it?
And if it is, are we only kind to be liked or are we kind to be kind?
I couldn’t decide, so I wrote on it. Here's a brief critique from The Universe.
A DM from The Universe
Channelled Message by Hayley Barkla - Copyright 2025
The Paradox of Being Likeable: Why Being "Liked" Doesn’t Define Your Worth
Why do I feel this is a non-approachable, approach to being likeable?
Fundamentally, the dynamics or metrics for being “liked” are ones that feed into the notion that one is not worthy if one is not liked. And so, this builds a bind within as the two are not mutually exclusive. One can be most worthy but hated by the entire populace. Look at your leaders and change makers in the world. Elon Musk would be a prime example at this time.
So, the notion that one must relentlessly like others to then be like themselves is preposterous! One cannot alter the inclination of embracing someone’s persona by the quality of “liking.” It is nonsensical and should be mindfully discarded.
The bigger message should be it is not a privilege to be popular but a potential in all fields of reality, and so, the desire to be popular comes from the chosen path of the individual. Lessons come from both ends of the “popularity war”—one is not better than the other. Again, this commentary {reel} is a true sign of times on your planet.
Kindness from Within: Why Authenticity Trumps External Validation
The expectation to be liked by others is a fanciful farce. Do not depend on the external gratification of others to measure your accountability or achievability in the world.
Be kind because you want to be kind—not because it pleases another. This is you fuelling worthiness into the materium {physical reality}, and not the other way around. Blind Freddy can see that the idea of kindness is generated from a loving heart, not one that expends itself in aggregation of “friends”, “likes” and “comments”.
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